by Joe Kiefer
Being a dad of 4 thriving little people it can be kinda crazy at times in our world. Drive there. Coach soccer. Hit the grocery store. Pay some bills. Get the oil changed. Don’t forget the the pull-ups and the list goes on and on. There are tons of ways to be stretched and many directions to be pulled. It’s like, it never stops. Well dad, be of good cheer there are 3 things you can do that will help you be your best and one thing to remember that will help you end your day well.
- The little things are really the big things. It is the little moments of encouragement that really matter to your kids. Don’t make your words of encouragement an event but a way of life. Invest, at least once a day, in uplifting someone in your house. Don’t make it about you. One thing you might say is “Wow! you really can put an outfit together.” My 13 year old just lights up when she gets compliments without having to bait for them
- When there’s work to be done, be a team player. You don’t always have to be the coach. Sometimes just doing the work together is the real pay off. Sure there will always be work to do but there will not always be kids at home to do it with. Sometimes good enough, is good enough. Your kids don’t always need a coach. When you are directing and coaching you may be missing the opportunity for connecting. Remember the time connecting is more important than the task being done.
- Leaders are readers. This means you dad. Read books on parenthood and being a good father. Leave the business and professional development books for the office and work travel. Be the type of dad that invests in being as good at home as you are in your career. Spend time investing in your dad skills.
Finally, never forget the 80/20 principle. Don’t give all your energy to your employer. There is no need to wear yourself out for the next promotion only to be too tired and stressed out to enjoy your family. Your 80% at the office or wherever you work is enough. Save some fuel for when you get home and someone needs to be encouraged or someone needs help with their calculus. It’s more important to be available than it is to afford the next big thing.
Joe is a contributing columnist to The Bellevue Dayton Sun. If you like his articles, you may follow him at http://joekiefer.blogspot.com/2015/05/a-fist-full-of-knotted-ankles.html